I'm looking for ways to reflect on this situation so I can movie forward in not let my toxic behavior leak out. I think it wouldve been good to also discuss the trust issue briefly. They give birth. Women have 10 lb babies & tighten right back up with the right maintenance (from experience). Bottom line though? She fills out many of the red pill and general knowledge definitions of what a slut is. idk how to both handle my parents and be safe around them. business trips while Jerry came over and played house with mommy, a We block love sometimes for all the wrong reasons, and how many men she has previously slept with should never be one of them. is NOT okay to act as if it doesnt count because it was in your past. Piggy-backing on your statements, the world would be a pretty boring, lame place if the only differences between men and women were sexual organs. Also, having a high number of partners can cause him to have negative opinions of her. (one-nighters) out of the 19 people Ive had sex with that I didnt get to If he never asks or she never gives him a specific number then I do not think we should put that in the same category as a cheating wife. When looking for information about dating someone with this girls' attributes, try to change the language. Am I saying that women that have what would be considered a large number of partners should be shunned? Trust anyone that knows me can tell you I dont even like describing women as hoes or whores I just wanted to use that term to make a point. Would you marry a girl who slept around? For me I think that was the last straw I noticed myself, not eating, and being depressed I seeked out councelling and it was determined that this double standard, combined with verbal abuse over 9 years has made me clinically depressed..She has had councelling too now and is resolving all the damage previously caused by her previous encounters. sex with isnt an issue for either of us. so should that man walk away from her now just based off of him finding out a specific number despite the fact that how she is today makes him a happy man. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I feel sorry for whoever marries the likes of you. If they have changed and you feel some sort of potential, give them a chance. You havent listed any statistics relevant to the discussion. I sure don't. I just dont put it all in one article because it would make them to long to be honest. I wonder how many marriages would last if they really even knew. You feel it might reflect on her character and increase her chances of cheating on you? Im not saying that the way I thought was right but being raped for 3 years by the same man and molested by someone else that loved you has its effects on your mind and heart. others have been hurt that bad or that many times by c*nts (male or female) that they just stay single. Im logical, confident, and independent. Womens happiness within committed relationships also goes down as her partner count increases. I am the type that wants to get to know a women before I date her. have and wield. The issue is beyond Disease Free, its the type of risk either party has been willing to takerather then except weather they can be Honest. There are so many reasons why she may have taken that path. Evaluate that person for who they are now, not who they were previously. I was married before her and would still be married had my first wife been half the woman she is! Not all of those events are going to be good in retrospect, but not all will be bad either. Men always have an ideal and fantasize; women are guilty of that as well, but b/c of societal conditioning, we accept this double-standard. This is HILARIOUS from the perspective where people are making Judgment and the act of judging out to be a bad thing!!! I just wanted to share so that some man one day can know hes not alone. If the issue of bumping into them is that serious, I would rather move then to give up on her. spoken likea girl who has slept with a lot men. Do you know what these signs are and how to avoid them like the plague? This "What type of girl will I marry quiz" is for those who want to find out the kind of girl they will marry. Most married men dont even know their wives past and they are living a Lie. I dont need booty call lovers hanging around, nor do I need or want others with a sexual desire lingering to get fired up later for whatever reason. maintenance issues. Its only beta males, and soft men who have been brainwashed by feminism, or who attempt to co-opt these arguments in order to get into womens pants, who are ok dating sluts. if you settled your butt down and took pride in yourself you wouldnt be in those problems the vows say for better or worse or richer or poor people need to grow the hell up and start taking that into consideration im a male and i only been with 3 women one who has been with more men than me and she couldnt stop trying to find flaws and better in a man im not a operation game broad im human like any one else and these foolish women need to come to terms wit themselves. Like half my high school classmates were married by 22 and there were peobably more men and women in my classes in college talking about their girlfriends they adore or fiances or their wives than any amount of dudes talking about casual hookups. I feel there is a price that is paid for the way you are choosing to approach this issue, but nothing I can say will convince you otherwise. The First and the Last. is out of sync with reality(and they are becoming increasingly aware 0. It helps with understanding them fully, but it should not be used to pass judgement in any way. before automatically being a jerk and walking away. Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. I had a serious relationship with my ex wehn i was 26, i lost my virginity to him, however he did not lose it with me, i knew he had an ex..but that never bothered me i loved and cared for him just the same, we both wanted to get married but it was not able to materialize as parents would not agree. If you dont believe me look at the types of non-black females black celebs go for. Think about it, no guy whos screwed dozens of women is going to care if the women he finally settles down with has been with a heap of guys in her past, if he does then hes basically a hypocrite anyway. Can it work out with an ex a bit further down the line? Women who choose to be sluts make their beds, and must lie in them. My guy friend in #1 is doing exactly that. The best way to evaluate who a person really is, is toyou knowactually look at how he/she has lived his/her life. I could care less but its true. Take care. A pregnant woman or a women with an infant child on the African savannah had a far lower chance of survival if they didnt have a man to provide for her and her child and protect them from harm. Heres me who was afraid to even chat with a woman online suddenly decides to get on a plane for 13hours and go meet her, we spent an amazing month together, best time of my life at the end of it for some reason I asked her, how many guys you been with her response was I lost cou- I mean I cant remember maybe 30. She made a vow to stay faithful and she broke it. Whats cool is having the personal pride, and self-respect to give your body to every man who shows you interest. Quite frankly, the word perfect enables the black community and all of our dysfunctions. lose this person, they are exactly what you were looking for and they actually Its not just your vagina you need to worry about think about your health. that it is fine to date a slut but I just want some fucking piece of hope cause I don't want to drop this shit as I really like her. I reinforced that sex was a major responsibility, must be done with responsibility, and that I definitely preferred that she would wait until she was marriedbut that if something changedprotection was a must! I wish I could be OK with it but its a struggle every day and it causes me real emotional pain. Some of the best sex you may have is one that includes arousal and anxiety. I think how many sex partners you have had should matter. The amount of partners a person chooses to share themselves with sexually reflects on that persons character and values. People lets come out of denial, a false sense of entitlement, male privilege, or whatever it is and do our own self examination as Holy Spirit would have us do! Thats why they say check the Carfax. I cried in front of my English teacher (badly), Do men act like jerk on purpose after sex. I think it would be best for everybody to wait or minimize how many people they have sex with, but that does not change the fact that we should not judge a woman based on her past. This sort of behavior is causing the highest divorce rate America has ever seen. Well it certainly does which really makes these women very Pathetic. People make mistakes and should NOT be judged however we cant be stupid and act like it doesnt matter. So lets be perfect in a less than perfect world and provide a few undeniable examples: Your RENT is due and it is $800 and you only have $620Do you have the right or wrong amount??? interact. Ask around ladies. For example, marriage is beautiful union however,You can get married but,, marriage does not mean you are barred from temptation nor does it mean forever. Many times the stroll occurs in high school or college, but it varies for different women. Isnt it women who tell men & society: You cant tell me what to do w/ my body?Especially when it comes to pregnancy & abortion?Therefore women are admitting that having a womb comes w/ having more responsibility. Do you think that you can scold men into non judgement ? Amen brother. I would just say that the specific number wasnt the real issue in your case. Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. I lost my virginity to a girl who had been with lots of guys before me. Though I feel that a beautiful girl would have had more options than a similar guy.so I personally won't judge her on that. Actually this research was proven by a Womens Organization! You are not a man. that doesnt mean that they should deny themselves regular sex of a relationship and it doesnt make them sl*ts or *ssh*les but at least there confident and enjoy themselves. Others may have been dealing with some deep issues and did not know how to properly handle it. The man may never know that these men were chosen by her respectively and a mutual feeling of attachment existed if he only looks at the number and views the wild party scene when none may have existed. If a guy was to meet me he would never guess my number is so high because its all about how I carry myself. Ugh. them based on the fact she considers him to be the worthy one if you will. Id like to think that we live in a liberated, sex-positive society where people understand that people have sex and ITS A HUMAN THING, not only a man-thing or a woman-thing. Its not unusual for women in my age bracket (53) to have had 100 men! By your logic, if we make no judgments on our potential mates, and the past doesnt matter, it should not matter if our potential mate was a child rapist for 20 years, as long as s/he isnt currently raping children. It is the best indicator of who someone actually isyou knowhow theyve actually led their life. Thing is, a mistake can cost you plenty in life jobs being one of them. Where do your moral codes and values rate when it comes to men having a promiscuous lifestyle? She can probably just walk up to a man and say Wanna fuck me? and the first man she approaches will say yes (or at least one in the first three men). How do you think He will respond to what you happen to think about Him and His lack of existence? I agree with you. So what if she runs across someone she slept with in the past? SO DONT SAY WOMEN COULD NEVER HAVE THESE INSECURITIES AS WELL BECAUSE THEY COULD. Thanks for your input man I appreciate it, ErmdudeI don't think you are in the best place to be with anyone right now tbh. Im gone from a serious thing..dont get me wrong, ill keep her around and have sex with her, but no emotion will be devoted to her. Relationships are important, and looking at the PAST, how someone hasyou know/actually/ lived their lives tells you a lot about them. However, theres another possibility that you could simply be what she could afford to have. Take hold of completely forgiving her, and focus on only showing her the love she needs from you. But they dont.because they KNOW sluts dont make good wives so men wont pick them.well.the smart men wont. But most men with self-esteem, and who arent betas wont stoop so low to marry and have children with a slut. Just b/c those were accpetable practices in the past doesnt mean we as a society have to continue to adhere to them and perpetuate their message. If you arent proud of your number when I asked by a potential life partner, you could be a slut. To me there was no perfect guy except for in fairy tales and even then some of the princes had problems. lol But, even tho guys work harder at it I still think its a little anti-social for even guys. I never said I wanted to date you or anyone like you, so your comment, No one is saying you have to date us, is a bit of a non-sequitor. Yes he was obviously more attractive than you, 'Just have girls asking you for 3somes, why isn't every guy doing this? Nothing wrong with not desiring a woman with a dicey past, but as I pointed out in my previous example, is that really worth walking away from a woman who has become a person that you love and have connected with? Also statistically, men and women who have had many partners set unrealistic standards for their future partners to adhere to. I disagree that promiscuity is what has caused the highest divorce rate America has ever seen. You make an excellent point and I wanted to leave the door open to a separate post that would address the trust issue as well as the why she has slept with so many men. 10 Best web hosting for entrepreneurs and small business. If I were a man, I wouldnt want to be with a woman and everytime we leave the house fear bumping into one of her former sex partnerswhat does she have to give her husband if she has given it to 100 men? He already feels guilty and deeply regrets disappointing you. View her for who she is today, not the person she may have been previously. Some people are stricter Especially when random names pop up, she still associates with them, and 80% of her male friends have been with her. Lastly, a man will respect you if he respects himself and others, especially women. As for a woman leading you on to believe she passed that stage, well she may just not have wanted to let you pass her by even though she knows she wasnt ready. This is still me However, for menthey are target-marketed like pigs in a pen. She is still fully capable of satisfying a man and fulfilling his needs.by the way, I would love for you to post your comment on the blog itself : ) let people see other perspectives. a man after sex, and not valuing her as the woman she is inside. Everything you could ask for and more. We have been together for almost a year now. She came clean with me (after wewere together)during a deep conversation. ok I understand where you are coming from especially with having to constantly worry about bumping into her sex partners. social fabric as a nation. Because the why rather than the number of men is what really should be discussed in order to better understand who this woman has been and has become. You wont be fully satisfied until youve found every single one of those great qualities all bunched up into one person. I am not against a woman having sex, I just think that it should be So this woman never lied about anything. Now I agree that the issues are deeper than sex but I feel even in an egalitarian society we will still see an issue arise. If a woman was promiscuous and had sex with numerous men, she was a bad mate choice due to the fact that he may be mistakenly wasting his resources raising another mans child(ren). Really? Oh you left them because of that? Heck, Ive even dated a slut, for a year! 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